learning to live with oneself...!

A lovely day of winter, yeah finally winter arrives in Goa. And I sit with my laptop surfing through usual social networking sites, finds no friends online to chat with... Actually there are some but I don’t know what to chat with them. And here I realize that some day or the other day we have to learn to live alone. Every time don’t expect that someone will ping you or all the time someone will keep talking to you. That’s true that we cannot literally live alone. To fulfill our basic needs like hunger and thirst we need help of other people. There are other kinds of needs like need to affiliate means to be with people get into relationships etc for that need too we need people.

Of course we can have a bond with nature, animals but there is some necessity rather a human instinct to be with same species and luckily or unluckily we belong to the species of human beings. And if human beings don’t socialize they will not sustain a healthy life. Actually being with people is not in our hands, it’s a natural thing. We come to this earth due to the people known as our parents and from there starts the circle of social life. We talk, we live together, we share, we care, we love and as we grow up the circle widens. School, friends, teachers, peers, relatives and many more…

We become part of other’s world so much that we forget our own inner world. I might be wrong while making this statement but cant skip this line because it came from my heart. So, we make ourselves a being according to other’s choices, other’s expectations. For example as a child we choose things according to our parent’s choice, as we grow peers and friends tend to influence on us, then the life partner and many other people whom we consider important in our life and we change or modify our actions, behavior, choices according to them. Why? Just because we want other’s approval, we seek love... We want that others should appreciate us... Now that’s another need of human beings, to be liked and loved.

But don’t u people think that some day we need to sit and think what “we” want for ourselves? Finally we are the ones who are going to live life and we are the ones who will die for ourselves. We born alone, we die alone… yes! That’s true that we cannot live alone but there is a need that we realize some day that we are and why are we here?

Every time when we fall into some problem or whenever we feel bored or we are restless every time we won’t find friends or parents to share our things or ask them for advises. There are times when we have to depend on ourselves. Take our own advises, ask your own mind and heart of course about yourself.

There are also times when we need to take our own company. Every time no one would come and sit with you and chat for hours. At least not in today’s world where every single person is so busy in their own life. You cannot curse anyone or complain that people don’t give you time. First ask to yourself whether you give time to others. Learn to live with yourself. At beginning it might seem boring but if you do it seriously its fun! I don’t say that talk endlessly to yourself that people call you mad but just peep into yourself. Polish the hidden you. Wipe the dirt on your mind. Let all your dreams all your passions all your thoughts your own thoughts come out and sit on your mind. Let your heart guide your mind and let your mind guide your heart. Talk to yourself. Some call it introspection!  When you complain about others not giving time to you and others complaining about you not giving time to them give some time to yourself. Be all alone and discover the real you. Learn to live with “You”….

I guess that was too much for the minds? So here signing out my heart…Hoping to think soon.. Till then “peep” into “you”..!

Tanuli